I don’t know about you, but there are times when I experience a lot of self-doubt. It often relates to my blog and my work with clients, and whether I’m “good enough” at these things. I find myself questioning how to stop worrying about what other people think?
The truth is my self-doubt has held me back a lot over the years. I struggled to value myself and believe in my abilities.
Taking the risk of others seeing my work
When the blog posts are unpublished and they’re for “my eyes only”, I’m okay. They’re safe, no one can pick them apart, and I can feel pleased with them.
The moment they’re put out in the world for scrutiny, I can start to doubt what I’ve written in them.
I convince myself that everyone will dislike what I’ve done, no one will care, and they’ll wonder “What on earth is she doing?”.
The trouble with being a perfectionist
The concept of ‘perfect’ is interesting because perfect is very subjective. Therefore, is it really possible to achieve it?
I always feel there’s something to improve. I’ve been a perfectionist for as long as I can remember.
Getting into negative thinking patterns
I’ve questioned many times how to stop worrying what other people think. I’m well aware of how my negative thoughts can affect how I feel and what I do.
It’s therefore important to try to change what you’re thinking to change how you feel.
More balanced thoughts
I try to take my own advice and come up with more balanced thoughts to my worries. The reality is that not everyone is going to like my blog posts.
Some people might love them, other people might hate them, and others may be totally indifferent to them.
Whatever their view, why does it matter so much what people think and how can I stop worrying about what they think?
Another point I’ve spoken about is that I’m not going to please everyone.
So by that logic, if I’m never going to write content that can possibly please everyone, why don’t I just get on and do it, because there’s bound to be someone who likes it?!
How to stop worrying about what other people think
I think it comes back to the mantra I’ve used so often in my life: “Feel the fear and do it anyway”.
I may never get over the anxiety of publishing new blog posts. There may always be some apprehension over how people are going to react.
So why don’t I allow that anxiety to sit there, but post anyway? What’s the worst that can happen?
Don’t let fear hold you back
So, I don’t really think there’s an answer for how to stop worrying about what other people think.
The worry may not go away. However, if you allow it to control you, then you risk not moving forward with the things you’re passionate about. You risk standing still and not pursuing the things that mean a lot to you.
There are things in my life I’ve held off doing because of the fear of what others will think. However, I’m trying to be brave and push forward despite the anxiety. I don’t want the fear to hold me back anymore.
How about you? Has fear held you back? Do you find it hard to stop worrying about what other people think?
Let me know in the comments.
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