I’m so glad you found my little corner of cyberspace!
My name’s Jo. I’m a Psychologist, and a fitness and nutrition enthusiast.
My passion is promoting the benefits of physical fitness on our mental health, as well as inspiring people to pursue the things that they’re passionate about.
What about you?
Have you ever struggled with low self-esteem? Thought you’re not “good enough” or that your views don’t matter?
Perhaps you have goals and aspirations, but there’s a little voice that holds you back for fear that you’ll fail?
Sorry to bombard you with all these questions as soon as you get here!
I can relate
The reason I ask is that I’ve been there; I’ve felt that way. In fact, I still struggle some days!
Being honest, I almost never started this blog because of the limiting beliefs I have about myself.
I struggled with disordered eating and negative body image from my early 20s through to my early 30s. I placed all my value on how I looked and how ‘thin’ I was.
For a long time I didn’t feel I was good enough. I’d work harder and harder, running myself into the ground. All to try to prove to myself that I was in fact good enough.
However, no matter how much I pushed myself, my belief didn’t change.
In 2015, I discovered weight lifting and everything changed. My relationship with food transformed. I started appreciating my body for how much it could lift, rather than how small I believed it ‘should’ be.
Over time, my self-esteem grew and I started valuing myself. I began to recognise that I matter!
In 2019, I decided to start writing about my lifting and life experiences. I wanted to share my learning in the hope it would help others.
At every step, I worried about what other people would think.
I didn’t tell anyone about my blog for a while. I was scared people would laugh at me. I thought they’d say I was stupid.
My blog stalled for a short time as I lost inspiration. After debating with myself for a while I started my YouTube channel. Again, I delayed starting the channel because I was worried about what people would think.
As it turned out, starting my YouTube channel was the best thing I did. It helped increase my confidence and spurred me into returning to blogging!
Letting go of other people’s expectations
I believe that the only thing that holds us back are the limiting beliefs we have. If you can change your mindset, you really can change your life!
Don’t get me wrong, I still have my wobbles. But, those wobbles are all part of the learning process. I can take those things forward and use them in future.
And yes, there are people out there who’ll put you down. They may make fun of you, or laugh at your aspirations. Those people aren’t the ones you want in your corner.
We need to learn to let go of other people’s, and society’s, expectations of us. We can never ever please everybody, so we might as well do the things we love.
It’s time to stop fear from holding us back, and go for what we want in life!